By s.e. smith on 7 November, 2010
Content note: This Dear Imprudence discusses the use of hitting to ‘discipline’ children. Dear Prudie’s Monday livechat featured a doozy of a question: Q. Discipline: My wife and I have been married for eight years, and we have three wonderful children, two girls and a boy. While we agree on most everything, the one thing [...]
Posted in Dear Imprudence | Tagged autism, cerebral palsy, children, Dear Prudence, Emily Yoffe, parenting
By Annaham on 1 November, 2010
Feminist organizations have become more aware of the need to make their activities accessible to women who use wheelchairs, women who need written material in alternative formats, and women who need Sign Language translation, but much feminist practice still assumes a consistently energetic, high-functioning body and mind, and certainly not a body and mind that [...]
Posted in Quotations | Tagged activism, disability, feminism, feminist theory, feminist work, gender, parenting, second shift, work
By Annaham on 26 October, 2010
firecat at Party in my head (DW): How To Be Sick I went to this talk because I have chronic health conditions that affect my mobility and energy levels, and I am a caregiver for my mother, who has Alzheimers. I’m a Buddhist and my study of Buddhism has helped me work through grieving over [...]
Posted in recommended reading | Tagged ADHD, bodies, cfs/me, chronic fatigue syndrome, chronic illness, disability is a feminist issue, female sexual disfunction, feminism, gender, intelligence, invisible disability, mental health, normality, parenting, social attitudes, spirituality, things people say
By Ouyang Dan on 7 September, 2010
Gentle Readers! I love advice columns almost as much as s.e. smith, and I especially love ou’s deconstructions of them, so I get pretty stoked when ou passes them along for the rest of us to take a crack at them. This one comes to the the New York Times’ Social Q’s from a mother [...]
Posted in bad advice, Dear Imprudence, intersectionality, othering, parenting, relationships | Tagged ableism, burden, Dear Imprudence, disability, gawking, intersectionality, parenting, privacy, problematic attitudes, social treatment, staring
By Chally on 12 August, 2010
It’s really off-putting when a group of disabled people are trying to have a conversation and a caregiver butts in with “you’re wrong. I know, because I care for someone with such and such a disability”. This makes me squirm. Even worse are those disability organisations or charities that have only parents and caregivers on [...]
Posted in disability activism, politics, social attitudes | Tagged care, caregiving, carers, parenting, privilege, problematic attitudes, rethinking social norms, social attitudes, social treatment
By Ouyang Dan on 12 July, 2010
Warning: Offsite links are not safe spaces. Articles and comments in the links may contain ableist, sexist, and other -ist language and ideas of varying intensity. Opinions expressed in the articles may not reflect the opinions held by the compiler of the post and links are provided as topics of interest and exploration only. I [...]
Posted in intersectionality, medical practice, military, recommended reading | Tagged Afghanistan, burned out on war, class, disability, family dynamics, Gulf War, Iraq war, military, parenting, public spaces, surgery, war injuries, warrior transition units
By lauredhel on 20 January, 2010
I’ve been shaking my head over the press for Rachel Axler’s new hipster-ableist play, Smudge. Here’s a lightning tour, with my response s at the end. Emphases are mine. In ‘Smudge,’ Baby’s disabled, and mom’s not much better, from Newsday: Most couples look at the sonogram of their impending baby to see whether it’s a [...]
Posted in media and pop culture, social attitudes | Tagged ableism, ablism, axler, baby, child, children, children with disabiltiies, congenital, dehumanisation, disability, metaphor, new york, parenting, play, privilege, PWD are people, rachel axler, reviews, smudge, the women's project, theatre
By s.e. smith on 8 January, 2010
A few weeks ago, I went out to dinner at a local restaurant, and I happened to run into one of the owners on my way out the door. I’m friends with the owners, so I stopped to chat for a minute. She (I’ll call her “Susan” for the purpose of this story) has a [...]
Posted in language, social attitudes | Tagged parenting, words mean things
By s.e. smith on 16 December, 2009
Note: This post has been edited to include Amy Kehoe’s correct diagnosis, which was erroneously stated as schizophrenia in an earlier version. I apologize for the error and for not fact checking more thoroughly before publishing. -meloukhia A story is brewing in Michigan. Amy and Scott Kehoe wanted babies, but couldn’t have them on their [...]
Posted in autonomy, blaming, justice, mental health, social attitudes | Tagged disabled parents, disabled women, parenting, psychotic disorder not otherwise specified
By Anna on 29 October, 2009
Recommended Reading for October 29, 2009
Posted in recommended reading | Tagged ableism, ally, ally work, Bones, irritations, media and pop culture, parenting, pop culture, sex, sexuality, work
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