By Anna on 27 December, 2010
Dale Mitchell, Ethos Executive Director. He looks to me like he’s a white man in his 40s.: We’ve heard about homemakers going in, taking out a bible and having the elder pray, and asking for forgiveness.
Lisa Krinsky. She’s a white woman in an office surrounded by files, and works for LGBT Aging Project,: And to be cured. It’s not too late for you to be cured of this. They go back in the closet. She might misstreat me or abuse me.
Posted in age, disability activism, gender, intersectionality, life changes, relationships, sexuality, social attitudes, Videos | Tagged aging, documentary, Gen Silent, LGBT, transcript
By s.e. smith on 20 December, 2010
One of the relationship tropes that irks me most when it comes to talking about partnerships where at least one person is disabled is the idea that the relationship only exists because of pity, often paired with the idea that disabled people will take any relationship they can get out of fear that they will [...]
Posted in i'm right here, othering, relationships, social attitudes
By Chally on 7 December, 2010
This piece contains lots of spoilers. I wanted to love this book, I really did. I have enjoyed the couple of Julie Ellis novels I’ve read, but this one just tipped the charming/not happening scale a bit far. It has a really strong heroine in Vicky, who escapes the Russian pogroms to build a new [...]
Posted in books, feminism, gender, media and pop culture, race, relationships, representations, sexuality | Tagged book review, disability in fiction, disabled women, fiction, problematic attitudes, reviews, sex, wheelchair users, women
By Staff on 22 November, 2010
This weekend, s.e. and abby both read The Summoning, by Kelley Armstrong. Rather than fighting over which one got to review it, they decided to have a chat instead! Here’s the synopsis from the publisher, and be advised that mild spoilers lie beyond! My name is Chloe Saunders and my life will never be the [...]
Posted in books, mental health, relationships, representations | Tagged institutionalisation, mental illness in fiction, mentally ill characters, YA Lit
By Anna on 19 November, 2010
1. Ableism has a dictionary definition; 2. Ableism can be deliberate; 3. Ableism has an academic definition; 4. Ableism can be accidental – this doesn’t make it okay; 5. Ableism kills.
Posted in 101, Ableist Word Profile, deaths, disability activism, identity, normality, othering, policy, politics, relationships, representations, social attitudes | Tagged ableism, definitions
By Ouyang Dan on 16 October, 2010
I read a post at Crazy Mermaid’s Blog recently that neatly summarized some things that I have been struggling with lately. Friends and loved ones of those with a mental illness have a hard time understanding noncompliance with medication. Why, they reason, if the drug helps control the symptoms of the mental illness, doesn’t the [...]
Posted in intersectionality, introspective, life changes, relationships | Tagged choices, disability, family, intersectionality, mental health, personal, side effects
By Ouyang Dan on 18 September, 2010
Here’s some nostalgia for ya, gentle readers! My dad, who was completely AB for the record, lived alone in the home I now own, and for a good portion of my life had many of his needs taken care of by members of his immediate family. My Grammy did most of his laundry, unless my [...]
Posted in bad advice, Dear Imprudence, disability activism, intersectionality, relationships, shaming, social attitudes | Tagged ableism, caregivers, Dear Imprudence, Dear Prudence, disability, Emily Yoffe, intersectionality, it's not fair!, problematic attitudes, sex, social lives, social treatment
By Anna on 9 September, 2010
People with disabilities, especially women, have all the same pressures currently non-disabled people do to look “good enough”, with added bonus of being either non-sexualised or hyper-sexualised, as well as having people infantize them to an incredible degree.
Posted in autonomy, bodies, gender, i'm right here, introspective, invisibility, life changes, media and pop culture, normality, othering, relationships, representations, sexuality, shaming
By Ouyang Dan on 7 September, 2010
Gentle Readers! I love advice columns almost as much as s.e. smith, and I especially love ou’s deconstructions of them, so I get pretty stoked when ou passes them along for the rest of us to take a crack at them. This one comes to the the New York Times’ Social Q’s from a mother [...]
Posted in bad advice, Dear Imprudence, intersectionality, othering, parenting, relationships | Tagged ableism, burden, Dear Imprudence, disability, gawking, intersectionality, parenting, privacy, problematic attitudes, social treatment, staring
By s.e. smith on 23 July, 2010
Oh, Ask Amy. You’re still on my shit list for your rape apologism, and yet, I keep reading your column. I admit it, I mainly do it so that I can find particularly awful pieces of advice to feature here. This week, a high school student writes about a problem she’s experiencing at home: Dear [...]
Posted in Dear Imprudence, relationships | Tagged abuse, Amy Dickinson, Ask Amy, family, verbal abuse, words mean things
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