4 responses to “We Need to Consider More than Universities”

  1. Kaitlyn

    I worry that if people discussing rape try to be inclusive it will lead to those horrible “advice” things to prevent rape, only designed for PWDs. (And probably PWvisibleD, probably people who use wheelchairs.)

    My favorite rape prevention tip – don’t rape someone. Don’t drug somebody’s drink. If you think you may rape someone, have a buddy along to stop you. And on and on.

    I think that when it comes to rape and PWD, it ties into bigger issues, like getting our voices heard. “Oh, she’s bipolar, so we’ll blame that instead of booze. You must have been “crazy” then and now you regret it. And stop wearing clothing that shows off your body!”

    Rape culture is so ingrained… I have big breasts. I like them. They’re purty. Ever since I got them, I’ve liked shirts that show them off. But I still feel like I shouldn’t do that because I’m not looking for a man, I just feel like dressing for myself, and I’m sending out the wrong message. But it’s my body, why can’t I wear a shirt I like?

  2. thehyacinthgirl

    “het cis probably currently non-disabled largely white largely middle-to-upper-class”

    Hmm, I think this is a bit of a generalization, and erases the millions of university students who do not fit one or more of these categories. I was raped in college, and I am queer and disabled. I don’t think it is accurate to assume that the majority of college students are necessarily privileged all across the board. (Of course, this will vary by region, type of school, etc)

  3. Gnatalby

    Raping a pretty young cis woman is understandable–the rapist was attracted to her and wanted to fuck her and wanted to cut through all the preliminary bullshit and get right to the fucking. It’s harder for people to imagine wanting to fuck children or older people or disabled people or crazy people or fat people. Who’d find that attractive? (Who would rape you?)

    I think this is a very thorny issue, because rape is really under-prosecuted for everyone, so it’s not as if people look at a young white girl and say, “Yep, pretty enough to rape… your rapist is CONVICTED!” It just turns into victim blaming about how she obviously wanted sex or she wouldn’t have gone out looking sexy. Obviously young cis TAB white women have a lot of privilege in almost every context, but in this area it doesn’t seem to translate into tangible gains.

    I don’t care if people talk more about what a problem rape is for people like me, I care if they actually do something to stop rape and to punish the rapist afterward, and with all the awareness I still see a lot of rape victims and not a lot of charges sticking.

    I think that the same problem is at work for all victims, the problem you’ve identified: the focus on sex, whether that manifests as saying “She was asking for it being pretty and wearing a short skirt” or saying “this woman in a care facility is unrapeable.” It’s a sex crime, but it’s not a crime about sexiness.

    I do wonder how the idea that disabled women are unrapeable works with your paragraph about sterilization because the assumption that rape will occur in care facilities, but it wouldn’t be the first thing our culture has cognitive dissonance about.
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