2 responses to “Time and Energy, or Lack Thereof”

  1. NTE

    I don’t have any great ideas, but I really understood this post, and wanted to say “me too.”
    .-= NTE´s last blog .."I Love the World/And I Want to Lay Down" =-.

  2. Anna

    Oh gosh.

    True confession: I used to get so angry at Don about his not reading/commenting on blog posts. “What,” I would say, all self-righteously, “is so hard about reading a bloody blog post and saying something about it?”

    I was so thoughtless and self-absorbed back then (which I think I’ve alluded to, but I really squirm a lot when I think about the way things used to be).

    And then, he didn’t have the language and context to tell me how incredibly wrong those comments of mine were. I really thinking reading/talking/thinking about disability, both as a couple and as individuals, has given us both the language to talk about issues, to work them out, and to realise when we’re both coming at something from such different directions. Now he can (for the most part) remind me when I’m being ableist and not thinking about his needs, and (for the most part) I’m much better at realising what his disability and attendant care-needs are doing to him.
    .-= Anna´s last blog ..And now, a new week =-.