This is our weekly Chatterday! open thread. Use this open thread to talk amongst yourselves: feel free to share a link, have a vent, or spread some joy.
What have you been reading or watching lately (remembering spoiler warnings)? What are you proud of this week? What’s made your teeth itch? What’s going on in your part of the world? Got any questions for your fellow FWD commenters?
Today’s chatterday backcloth, a teeny tiny octopus, comes via I Can Has Cheezburger.
(I tried to post before but forgot to hit “send” and then got distracted. Oops :P)
I’m really, really angry right now. Shit has happened at work that I can’t talk about. Feminists are being exclusionary (as you know, yay Twitter), and I’m really really really sick of people who say that me and mine don’t matter; that anyone who isn’t cis, white and currently not-disabled doesn’t matter!
I’ve been feeling quite manic since about 10am yesterday (GMT+8). One of the many “benefits” of missing a dose. It’s good that it’s a weekend, because I can expend useless energy without worrying about my work suffering. But it means I can’t concentrate on anything for very long and I’m restless and argh and stuff…
Sorry for starting on such a low. In other news, I’ve been writing poetry
Lauredhel, I just wanted to say you are awesome and thankyou for speaking out on the Feminist Review site. And thank you also Annaham and OuyongDan and… Um… Everyone else who spoke up.
And I know I don’t comment very often, but I really do appreciate the work all the contributed do here. Thank so very very much.
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This has been a good week despite the fact that my meds aren’t working. (Which is, when I’m trying to beat back the depression and migraines trying to knock down the door, not a good thing. Plus it’s finals, which does not help the situation.)
But I got the summer “job” that I wanted/needed.
And my thesis proposal is handed in–plus, even if I don’t get my thesis, I think that I’m just happy that I was able to concentrate long enough to do that.
I figure this may as well be a good place for a first comment now that I’ve been reading a while. Hello! [waves]
I’m both getting a kick out of, and getting frustrated by, and continuing to be fascinated by, making the transition from a pseudonymous online identity (who had her friends and her places she hung out) to an online identity that’s under my own name and can be connected back to my workplace. It’s truly one of the strangest things I’ve ever done… because of course the two can’t ever publicly connect, but meanwhile I’m still the same person interested in all the same things and with the same taste in reading material. I don’t have colleagues who are as blog-immersed as I am to talk to about this. More and more the situation is becoming a feeder for those anxiety loops my mind gets stuck in from time to time: Right now the mental loop starts with blogging under my own name and ends with career ruin and online harassment becoming real-life harassment. I don’t know whether I’m inflating those risks in my mind, because I honestly don’t know what those risks are. But I do need and want for various reasons to enter certain conversations under my real name. So I do, but then I fret.
PharaohKatt, I def. understand that you can’t give more information, but I’m empathetically angry too, and giving the stinkeye to the people at your work, even if I don’t know the details. *hugs* Also: WHUT, SOME FEMINISTS WERE BEING EXCLUSIONARY? Heh. My spouse and I were gritching this morning about people who act as though engaging in anti-oppression analysis is like signalling the server about how much pepper you want on your Caesar salad: “Yes… little more… yeah… just enough to be able to complain about not getting the raise I want… okay, no, stop! That’s enough. Any more would give me heartburn.”
It looks like I missed a Feminist Review brouhaha – oops, will check it out (was it related to Bitch?) – but I’m not surprised those folks were kicking ass.
Hullo all! 😀
Another busy weekend at Chez Anna, I’m afraid. But of course :”busy” involved New Who! *throws confetti* “Moffat” has become a curse word in my house. He’s so evil and good and evil.
Hi SMB! Re: Arguments in the blogosphere, there’s stuff. It’s… stuff. Yeah. I don’t know. It kinda tires me at this point.
As for folks having rough times at work, I’m so sorry. 🙁 I hope it gets better?
Thank you.
Because it needs to be said much, much more often. Thank you so much for having a strict commenting policy and enforcing it. I have no idea how you manage to have the spoons to do it, and I am forever greatfull that you chose to use them for this. I was once more reminded today that moderation is a very work-intesive form of accessability. Because I couldn’t come here if it wasn’t such a safe space. And I mean that in the literal, unmoderated sites are dangerous for my mental health, sense.
Thank you for creating a space where i can come and learn without risking my depression getting worse. Thank you.
I’m doing so damn good. Though my room is hot (as usual), I’m HOME!!!
My sister is home too (she was originally coming Monday, before the family emergency), I’m so happy to see her, though she’s zonked out on the living room floor. Summer.
I’m just so happy, I’ve got my mommy and my puppies (they are always good for a laugh) and the pain still sucks, but I’m at home.
The semester’s not over – I have an incomplete and have to do an assignment. I thought he’d give me something easier, but it’s either do what was assigned in class or do a 12 page paper. Oh well, I’m going to do it on Bollywood somehow! Which means as I watch one, I’m not procrastinating, I’m doing research.
Hello to everyone. I’m returning from a nice, short vacation.
@ PharaohKatt: sorry to hear you’re having a bad time.
@ Annie: I’m glad you got the summer job you wanted. Too ba dyour meds aren’t working. I hope tehy do soon or you can work to another solution.
I might puke. I hate this feeling. It comes from taking too many migraine meds without enough sleep. And unfortunately, it started at work, so I was an absolute wreck in front of all my coworkers. Sigh. On the bright side, most of my coworkers are incredibly sympathetic and understanding, and my supervisor has happily agreed to give me schedule flexibility to deal with the migraines.
In other news, my mother expressed TONS of support for my writing today, and wants to read my novel when I’m done — and I think she’ll like it. All in all, not a bad day, even with the migraine.
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Thanks for your kind comments everyone. It really does help to have a space where people understand, and a place where I can say “I’m feeling very depressed/manic today” without needing to qualify or explain. Such a relief.
Kaitlyn: Hooray!! 🙂
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I graduated from college today. I almost can’t believe it; it has taken me many years to make it. My school does something special for the ceremony- each student selects a faculty member to present you and talk about you before you get your diploma. My adviser said some wonderful things about me that really showed she knows who I am. It is so nice to feel ‘seen’ I often haven’t, but today I saw how my profs and friends at my college have really seen me- not just looked past me or at my past or my disabilities, but have seen and acknowledged me, as a person. It it rare to have experienced that and really wonderful.
Anyway, I am pretty happy right now!
Oh my gosh, KJ, that is so awesome!!!! Congratulations!
congrats to you, KJ! *throws confetti*
KJ: Well done! Yay!!
Are you celebrating?
.-= PharaohKatt´s last blog ..I Dreamed That I Was Normal =-.
Congratulations, KJ!!! I’m happy for you!
Thank you all! My family is celebrating; we had about 30 people over yesterday. My family is really excited; they’ve traveled the education road with me through the hard years and they are absolutely thrilled I’ve made it this far. But I’m going to grad school next, so I still have some education in front of me.
I just discovered my grad school, BTW, offers an elective course about counseling person with disabilities. I am very curious about it and plan take the class when I am able, though it may be a year or so.
Congrats KJ, and yay grad school, “real world” go away!
I have a question about Hrithik Roshan (a major Bollywood actor and so hot and what were we talking about?) and how differences are represented.
Hrithik’s been acting for about 10 years – he’s grown a lot since his first one, he’s always been an AMAZING dancer (like made out of rubber), and I think he cemented his name as a good actor in “Jodhaa-Akbar,” an epic set in 16th century India. With none of his dancing.
He has three thumbs – the other one wasn’t removed because it was considered lucky. In some of his first movies, they didn’t try to show it and there felt like an attempt to hide it. (And in some print ads they photoshop it out!)
My question revolves around movies where the fact of his thumb could be important – he’s been in a number where’s he an adult in the 2nd half (or so) – in K3G, no wonder SRK didn’t recognize his brother, his eyes had changed color and he’d grown a thumb!
Is it better that they don’t acknowledge it in the average movie (maybe some parody one would make a wink/nod mention of how much someone can change in 10 years…) or would it be better to acknowledge it?
Another note – his father is major producer. In Krrish, one his father made and he starred in, there’s a scene where he has to hold his hand up to one of those hand scanner things, and it’s got the 5 finger outline. We see all 6 fingers.
I like that it’s just accepted, it just IS.
What do you think?