15 responses to “On Speculation and Boundaries…”

  1. Ayelle

    Thanks for posting this. My thoughts were running *exactly* the same way.

  2. sundiszno

    Yes. And thank you very much for stating it all so well.

  3. M

    Thank you for posting. As a woman around Murphy’s age with multiple chornic health conditions her death is frightening. I feel the conversation around it is disrespectful and sad. Whatever she died of is tragic and her loss hurts. She is gone and her husband and family are left without her. However, your post is a solace to those who want to discuss this and grieve both for her loss (from a fan standpoint) and for the what her death represents for those of us who are young and ill.

  4. Kaitlyn

    I was waiting for Yahoo’s headline to change from an announcement of her death to speculation.

    I am so glad I avoid celebrity sites and tv news.

    I recently saw Clueless for the first time and loved her. She was amazing in everything she was in, and it was such a sad shock to see that today.

    All we know and all we need to know is that a young woman died.

  5. pocochina

    She was possibly like me and she lost.

    Yes, thank you, exactly.

  6. Reggie

    She was possibly like me and she lost.

    This hit me hard. A beautiful post, and thanks for making it.

  7. Naamah

    “She was possibly like me and she lost.”

    Oh, man, ouch. Yes.

    I felt so much the same when Heath Ledger went. I was so upset about it, on so many levels. Argh. I can’t talk about that any more or I’ll just get going, and that’s not why we’re here.

    I feel so bad for Brittany Murphy. She had the most amazing, unfeigned, goofy laugh. I didn’t much like many of the movies she was in, but I loved HER in everything I saw her in. She was beautiful in a very accessible way, she was gifted at appearing unfeigned, and she wasn’t afraid to make herself look silly just because she was pretty, too, like a lot of beautiful actresses appear to be.

    My heart goes out to her family and friends, and to all of her fans who loved her more than I did.

  8. NTE

    She was possibly like me and she lost.

    This. So much this.

    Thank you for saying what other people are missing about this whole thing: It’s sad and horrible, but the ‘why’ isn’t our business.

    My heart goes out to her family.
    .-= NTEĀ“s last blog ..We’re still waiting for the snow to start here, =-.

  9. Alison Bergblom Johnson

    I’m with you. It’s scary and sad. And speculation is not our business. This happens way too often when people die or are sick.

  10. Astrid

    I have never heard of Brittany Murphy. However, it is still sad that she died.

    As for all the speculation, I think it may be because we don’t want to think of the fact that there is absolutely no guarantee that you would know if someone else, or even yourself, has an illness that could lead to early death. It is in fact quite possible that the first sign of cardiac disease is sudden death, but we don’t want to know this. Therefore, there *must* somehow be an explanation. When really there may not be one, and if there is one, it is none of our business.

  11. Kaitlyn

    My mom was commenting on further details, and I said it’s none of our business, and my mom said, “They make it ours.” (Access Hollywood was starting.)

    We don’t have to watch, so we didn’t.

  12. Kaitlyn

    Ouyang Dan – Why do we care?

    *tsk, tsk* Hollywood people. So typical. That would never happen to me. /speculation about the speculators.

  13. Gillian

    I find this sort of thing SO annoying, especially since there is a simple and reasonable explanation: she experienced cardiac arrest, and dies. Yes, at 32. It happens. A LOT. I’m a medic, and we deal with this sort of thing a lot more often that you’d think. It’s just one of those THINGS: the human heart relies on electrical impulses to function, sometimes those impulses go POING for no known reason (including minor and all but undetectable arrhythmias that are never diagnosed because they don’t cause any problems), the heart goes into Ventricular Fibrillation, and unless you’re lucky enough to have someone VERY competent at CPR around, that’s it, you’re dead. At 18, at 23, at 32, at whatever.

    People are so F@#$@# ignorant, and like to fill the vacuum of their ignorance with baseless speculation, ridiculous stereotypes, and general stupidity.